A Brutal Kind

crappyfolktownhero:

ibelieveingatsby:

polygl0t:

I, I can’t even. I do follow you. I like your blog and enjoy the things you reblog. 

You’re the one making assumptions. Whether or not they are correct, that’s still what you’re doing. And making assumptions is something that negatively affects the queer community and the “straight” community’s perception of us. You do not get to decide how valid someone’s sexual experimentation was. Granted, the drunk dudes who are saying they’re lesbians is probably just a douchey ploy to get into your pants, but everybody deals with that. Queer is not a trend. It’s not “cool” to be queer. It is an identity, one that is growing, particularly in our demographic, as people become less and less satisfied with the narrowness of heteronormativity.  As intellectual-orgasm pointed out: “I really don’t get why people get so hung up on this. There’s no incentive to identify as queer. It merits a lot of not fun stuff. Why add that to your life unless it explains a part of yourself you can’t otherwise articulate?” 

I think that that is a fair point. 

Followers? I’m running out of energy to deal with this woman and I have actually college work to do. Responses? 

This is exactly what I mean. First of all, I have gotten several snarky responses in my ask box. This particular frustrated post had nothing to do with you.

Any way, if you’ve never had someone get in your face calling themselves a queer because they think it’s a joke, or because they think it’s going to make you go on a date with them when you are clearly uninterested, then I don’t expect you to understand my frustration or even what I’m frustrated about, because you clearly don’t.

Alright, sugar. My team is losing and, unlike Bailey, I have absolutely zero tolerance for fuckery from people like you. So, let’s discuss:

1) It seems like this was rather explicitly triggered by her, since you have referenced your little debate with her in your comment.

2) You have absolutely NO FUCKING RIGHT to tell her what she does and does not understand. None. Do you understand? None. That means not one. Are we clear? I don’t know one girl who has not experienced obnoxious guys trying to pick them up. Jackassy guys are a universal constant. They are everywhere. 

3) I, for one, have never had a guy call himself a lesbian to me. This is due largely to the fact that I don’t put myself into those situations. In the same way, I don’t go to NOM rallies because I don’t want to be told that gay marriage is an abomination. But I understand what you’re frustrated about. It’s called empathy—the ability to understand and share the feelings of others. I spoke to a guy yesterday whose cat was in the hospital all weekend. Have you ever experienced that? I haven’t. But I was able to empathize and understand his problem. So even if I have never had a guy call himself a lesbian around me, I can empathize with the problem.

4) I’m still unclear about how it is that you’re not identity policing. Yes, those drunk girls/guys do seem to be heteronormal by your description. But those are anecdotal evidence with a small sample size. Go out and do a study of 100,000 cisgender straight people who consider themselves queer and see if this assertion holds. Either that, or correct what you said before to: “Drunk heteronormal assholes who are trying to get into my pants and/or playing the system should not identify as queer, unless of course there is information I am missing, because I do not have the right to identify police.” Furthermore, all you have provided is that these people have not shown you their queer cards. They have not sat you down and explained why the heteronormal descriptor does not fit them. And do you know what, they don’t have to. There is no reason why those people need to justify to you why the heteronormal label makes them uncomfortable.

^ What the fuck is she talking about and what the hell is “I, for one, have never had a guy call himself a lesbian to me. This is due largely to the fact that I don’t put myself into those situations” supposed to mean? How does one put themselves into that situation? Also, why is it totally acceptable to be expected to deal with drunk straight assholes, but intolerable to be frustrated by that? 

It appears that these two young ladies missed the point here. ibelieveingatsby was clearly just venting about being harassed by straight men who want to identify as queer to get into a girl’s pants. And, in reference to grant girl, LGBTQ grants are designed to help LGBTQ people get resources, not straight girls who are trying to scam the system. I don’t really see the need to get all pissy about this. You two might consider re-evaluating your priorities, if you’re so swamped with “college work”, why are you creating petty fights with strangers? 

This is what I do when Heather isn’t around.

you-be-tails-ill-be-sonic:

25 song, 25 day challenge.

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